Top Most Obvious Marriage Proposal Mistakes

by Jason Couture | category: marriage | published on: Feb 26, 2009

If you are planning to propose to your girlfriend in the future, you want to make sure you get it all just right. Unfortunately some men make some pretty bad mistakes. You can learn from their mistakes so you don't make them yourself. Here are seven of the top marriage proposal mistakes that you definitely want to avoid when you pop the big question.

Mistake #1 - Not Having the Ring When You Propose - One huge mistake to avoid is not having the ring when you propose to your girlfriend. Sure, she may say it's okay, but she will definitely be disappointed. Even if you have to have the ring resized later, it's best to have the ring with you. Make sure that you have that ring to present to her to make it perfect for her.

Mistake #2 - Proposing Over the Internet - Another big mistake you need to avoid when proposing is proposing over the internet. No woman wants to be proposed to by Instant Message or email. You must propose to her in person. Even if you have to wait a bit, it will be worth it. She won't feel very special at all if you propose on the web to her.

Mistake #3 - Letting the Cat Out of the Bag - Don't let the cat out of the bag before you propose. You don't want her to end up hearing it from someone in her family or one of her friends. She will want to be the first one to know about this. So, don't go around announcing it to anyone. They may promise to keep it to themselves, but chances are it's going to slip.

Mistake #4 - Proposing Impulsively - You should never propose impulsively. You should always take the time to plan out everything. The last thing she wants is a drunken proposal you suddenly blurt out as she's helping you to bed after you had too much to drink. A proposal always has to be from your heart and it's something you should think about carefully and plan before you try pulling it off.

Mistake #5 - Trying to Pop the Question Somewhere Noisy - It's not a great idea to pop the question in a place that is noisy. Choose a place where it is quiet and she'll be sure to hear what you are saying. A noisy dance club or a hopping bar are not great places for a proposal. It should be intimate and quiet.

Mistake #6 - Asking Her in Front of Her Entire Family - If you are ready to propose, don't make the big mistake of asking her to marry you in front of her entire family. This is a private moment for the two of you. Even if you have talked to her parents, propose in private. You'll want time together to talk with each other, cuddle up, and start making plans for the wedding.

Mistake #7 - Using Phrases That Make it Sound Like You Felt You Had to Propose - Never use phrases that make it sound like you felt you had to propose to her. She doesn't want to feel like you are just proposing because you thought it was the right thing to do. Never use phrases in your proposal such as "I've had time to sow my wild oats," or "You're the winner." This makes it sound like you just decided to settle on her instead of making this a romantic moment about your devotion and love for her.

These mistakes are bad ones you should never commit yourself.